Posted originally on Dec. 6, this has been updated to include both Maggie’s and Jon’s accounts.
Recently, Jon and I made fajitas for dinner.
We’re still learning to anticipate how the other moves in the kitchen, each other’s preferences for pans or knives, etc. Once upon a time, we resolved that every time we dirtied a dish, we would wash it right then. This has not worked out as well as originally planned. (See also: that time I left a small container of meatballs in the sink over the long Thanksgiving weekend.) Life is still fun without a dishwasher, don’t worry.
We made our fajitas and then ate at the card table (borrowed from friends, what?) because we still have no kitchen table. I ate quickly so I could get ready for yoga, and as I cleared my dishes to the sink, I said to Jon, “I’m just gonna leave these here, okay?”
Jon didn’t miss a beat: “Yeppers. ‘Cause you’re doing the dishes when you get back!”
Oh, snap. My husband is hilarious.
You know what’s great?
Not having to say goodbye. Being able to say hello, first thing every morning.
You know what’s still not fun?
Is it easier to be lazy when married?
Probably not. But it’s probably easier to THINK I can be lazy while I’m married. In the 8 short weeks of marriage I’ve thought to myself I don’t feel like doing it…I’m sure Maggie can take care of it. I better not get used to that feeling.
Marriage is a partnership. Sometimes doing the dishes is a part. I particularly like it when we tag team the dishes, one of us washing and the other drying.
So the other night when Maggie said, “I’m just gonna leave these here, okay?” The lazy side of me said: “Yeppers. ‘Cause you’re doing the dishes when you get back!”
I did the dishes the next morning.
Tonight we’re going to do them together. You don’t have to be married to do the dishes together. But I want to stay happily married, so we’ll do the dishes together.
Maggie also got me excited about tonight. “We’re doing laundry!” she said last night when I told her that we didn’t have anything planned. I’m sure my face fell.
But you know what? It beats doing it alone.
Amen and amen.